A lot of men do not realise they have lost themselves in a relationship until they start feeling frustrated, resentful, disconnected, or unsure why life no longer feels like their own.

It usually does not happen all at once. It can happen slowly through avoiding difficult conversations, keeping the peace, saying yes when you mean no, putting your own needs aside, or changing who you are so there is less conflict.

From the outside, it can look like you are doing the right thing. You might be trying to be a good partner, a good dad, or the person who holds everything together. But underneath, you can begin to feel unheard, taken for granted, or like you do not really know what you want anymore.

This night is not about blaming your partner or saying relationships are the problem. It is about looking honestly at the ways men can abandon themselves in order to be accepted, avoid disappointment, or keep everyone else happy.

We will explore where these patterns come from, how they affect relationships, and what it can look like to stay connected to yourself while still caring about the people around you.

We will look at questions such as:

Where have I stopped speaking up?

What do I need but struggle to ask for?

What am I afraid might happen if I am fully honest?

What would it look like to bring more of myself back into my relationship?

When a man loses himself in a relationship, it often does not just affect the relationship. It can affect his confidence, his sense of direction, his energy, his work, and the way he feels about himself.

This is a grounded men’s group for honest conversation, practical reflection, and understanding yourself better.

There is no pressure to share. You are welcome to come along, listen, and take what lands.

Event Details

Thursday 16 July 2026
7pm
The Healing Barn
1659 Cambridge Road, Cambridge

Donation welcome.

About the Men’s Group

The Healing Barn Men’s Group is a relaxed and grounded space for men to have honest conversations about life, relationships, pressure, purpose, emotions, and the things we often keep to ourselves.

It is not therapy, and there is no pressure to share. Each night has a topic, practical reflection, and space for conversation.

You are welcome to come along, listen, and take what lands.

Join Us

This group may be for you if you have been feeling disconnected in your relationship, frustrated by the same patterns repeating, unsure what you need, or aware that you have been keeping the peace at the cost of yourself.

You do not need to have it all figured out before you come.